So I was a ‘sciencee’, and week in week out I got sick of making 3 columns titled Experiment, Observation and Inference. However, subsequently I realized that it was a convenient structured method for observing and analyzing various phenomena quite methodically.
Consider this, there is a slightly crushed empty soft drink can lying on top of a shelf in your room visible to you everyday. You are not permitted to remove it, and as a result you get habituated it observing it regularly. Even though it has no contribution productively, aesthetically, comically, monetarily or socially, it has become a part of your life.
Despite the above unflattering characteristics, if you were to find that, after 3 weeks of frequent ‘interaction’, the empty crushed can isn’t there anymore, irrespective of anything you shall first exclaim “Hey, where did it go?” I guess it’s an encephalic flaw, or perhaps conditioning but either way, that just isn’t right.
Consider another case, where you are told to spend 2 hours with an absolute stranger who is fully accredited by those you trust in every manner addressing any possible insecurity you may have. Still you would necessarily with even the prospect of such a circumstance, HESITATE,
Intelligent and charming as the given stranger maybe.
“I guess it’s an encephalic flaw, or perhaps conditioning but either way, that just isn’t right.”!! However on meeting this stranger everyday for a period of 3 weeks, the sudden disappearance of this stranger would prompt you to wonder “Hey, where did he/she go?”
You get used to the person being a part of your life everyday and the disappearance creates a void. Annoying as they are, voids create a psychological imbalance don’t they?
Before I continue,
This is dedicated to a friend of mine who’s reluctantly agreed to have an arranged marriage at the age of 24, though she is genuinely apprehensive, frightened, and disinterested. I hope this makes you feel WORSE :)!
For everyone else, don’t take it personally it’s just a point of view.
So, yes that’s what I’m referring to arranged marriages!!! Various reasons maybe debated as to why they exist, and I maintain that on pragmatic and utilitarian grounds, they do have advantages over the ‘other’ kind, on the grounds of the reasoning given above, isn’t it a bi weird. Of course, I’m not insinuating that your to-be is “productively, aesthetically, comically, monetarily or socially” ‘challenged’, but just the idea of the whole thing.
The only grounds that are rational (read: not based on Indian ‘traditional’ customs) is that there are two ways of approaching the situation.
Two people have their own individual requirements, and while the whole starry-eyed love concept is nice, no two people can agree on the same pizza toppings, and of course a truck load of other less important things. So if you decide on the person first, some of your ‘requirements’ will have to take a back seat, and some things you don’t like will have to become a part of your life, such as Ironed clothes for example…
On the other hand, if you state your requirements first, it gives you the option/flexibility/luxury of not altering your lifestyle and continuing with it,
all at the small cost spending the rest of your life with someone you don’t care about
, or care as much about as you cared for the aforementioned can. Note, that since this was a low budget short term experiment, I have not discovered if an individual will miss the can more after 6 weeks than after 3 weeks, though my random guess is yes. I’m sure that’s comforting to know.
Yes, I have been accused of not giving equal opportunity to both sides of an argument while debating before, but apart from presentation, the content seems thought out to me.
What say you?
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ReplyDeleteArranged marriages work just fine for those who are not blinded with the illusions and false perceptions of "truly, madly, deeply" and "happily ever after".
ReplyDeleteBy the way, I quite honestly believe that people who value compatibility and convenience over the afore mentioned phantasm, have more chances of having a "happily ever after" than those who tie the knot with a truck load of expectations from each other and then spend the rest of their lives trying (almost dying!) to live up to them.